Psychotherapy for life beyond early patterns
When early roles follow you into adult life
How Therapy Helps
You may have grown up learning to be the capable one, emotionally aware, responsible, and attuned to others. Perhaps you learned early how to stay calm, avoid conflict, and look after yourself before anyone noticed you needed support. Independence became a necessity, not a choice.
These ways of being once helped you adapt.
They often came at a cost. You may have learned to suppress parts of yourself that were uncomfortable or unacceptable to those around you, your anger, needs, sensitivity, or voice. Subtly or directly, the message may have been that you were the problem: too much, too emotional, too demanding. Staying calm, agreeable, or self-contained became a way of staying connected.
Over time, this can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself, unsure of what you feel or need, and constantly monitoring the impact you have on others. You may function well on the outside, yet live with a quiet sense of pressure, over-responsibility, or unease, even when nothing is obviously wrong.
This isn’t a personal failing.
It is often the emotional imprint of childhood patterns that are still shaping how you relate, to others and to yourself.
Depth psychotherapy creates space to understand and gently loosen these early patterns, rather than pushing past them or trying to “fix” yourself.
Together, we explore how your inner world was shaped, what you had to adapt to, and which parts of you were left unattended. Many traits that now feel limiting, being agreeable, self-sufficient, emotionally contained, or highly responsible, began as intelligent ways of coping. They are not who you are, but how you learned to be.
As this understanding deepens, you begin to reconnect with your more authentic self, not by forcing change, but by allowing what was suppressed to return into awareness and relationship.
As a result, the need to abandon yourself softens. Boundaries begin to feel more natural rather than effortful. Relationships become less driven by fear or responsibility and more grounded in choice and mutuality.
This work is not about blaming the past,
it is about growing beyond it.
Who I work with
I work with adults who appear capable on the outside but feel unsettled, stretched, or quietly overwhelmed on the inside. There is often an underlying awareness that something feels off, a sense of not feeling fulfilled, not quite living authentically, or living more from adaptation than from choice.
Often, the people I support grew up in environments where emotions were minimised, unpredictable, or had to be carefully managed. They learned early how to keep the peace, take responsibility, or stay self-contained in order to feel safe or connected. While these adaptations once helped, they can later show up as anxiety, people-pleasing, difficulty with boundaries, or a sense of losing yourself in relationships.
You may recognise patterns of over-giving, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion, particularly in close relationships. This can include becoming caught in dysfunctional or emotionally one-sided dynamics, struggling to leave unhealthy situations, or repeatedly questioning yourself. Overthinking, negative self-talk, and spirals of self-criticism may feel familiar — even when you are competent and reflective in other areas of life.
I am especially well suited to working with you if you are emotionally aware, sensitive, and curious about your inner world — and if you grew up in an environment where your authenticity was not fully welcomed or mirrored. Perhaps you learned to tone yourself down, stay reasonable, or be “easy” rather than fully yourself. Depth-based therapy offers space to explore and reclaim those parts safely.
This work is not about quick solutions or surface-level coping strategies. It is about understanding long-standing emotional patterns and creating change that is meaningful and lasting.
If you are looking for short-term tools or a highly structured CBT approach, my style may not be the right fit. If you are ready for thoughtful, relational work that supports growth beyond childhood patterns, we are likely to work very well together.
