The Self Doubt & Boundaries Clinic

The Boundaries & Self-Worth Clinic is a space for people who feel stuck in patterns that quietly drain their confidence and sense of self. If you live with low self-worth, chronic self-doubt, people-pleasing, poor boundaries, codependent and toxic dynamics, self-blame, negative self-talk, or the pressure to carry everyone else’s emotions, you’re not alone.

Many people who come here feel torn between who they truly are and who they’ve learned to be in order to keep the peace, stay connected, or avoid conflict. You may find yourself abandoning your own needs, struggling to make decisions, or feeling trapped in toxic, unpredictable, or emotionally one-sided relationships where you give far more than you receive. It may feel like you’re always trying to earn closeness, avoid rejection, or hold everything together.

This space is designed to support you in understanding these patterns with compassion, so you can begin to feel more grounded, more confident, and more at home within yourself.

Common Signs You’re Struggling With Self-Worth or Boundaries

• You say yes when you want to say no

• You feel responsible for other people’s emotions

• You feel guilty when you set a boundary

• You second-guess your decisions

• You abandon your own needs to avoid conflict

• You feel “not enough” or “too much”

• Your relationships feel unbalanced, draining, or emotionally confusing

• You feel anxious, overwhelmed, or mentally exhausted

Why These Patterns Develop

These patterns don’t develop by accident, they are shaped by the environments you grew up in and the roles you learned to play to feel safe, accepted, or valued. Many people who struggle with self-worth or boundaries come from backgrounds where emotional safety was inconsistent, where they were expected to be the “strong one,” the “good one,” or the caretaker.

In these environments, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, staying quiet, or taking responsibility for others’ feelings can become survival strategies. Later in life, these same strategies can lead to attracting or remaining in toxic, unavailable, or emotionally volatile relationships, where you feel responsible for keeping the relationship stable or “fixing” the other person.

Over time, these roles become so familiar that they follow us into adulthood, long after the original context has changed. You may have learned how to cope, stay in control, or avoid conflict, but not necessarily how to thrive, express needs, or feel fully seen. Therapy offers a space to gently understand these patterns without blame, and begin creating new ways of relating to yourself and others.

How Therapy Helps

Therapy offers a space to step out of old survival patterns and begin building a life that feels calmer, clearer, and more grounded. Over time, people often find:

• boundaries become clearer and easier to hold

• self-worth strengthens

• the constant self-doubt softens

• anxiety reduces as the nervous system feels safer

• decision-making becomes easier

• relationships become more balanced and honest

• people-pleasing starts to loosen its grip

• toxic patterns begin to fall away

With support, your self-talk becomes kinder, your confidence grows, and you feel more able to trust yourself — your voice, your emotions, your needs. Therapy helps you shift from coping to living, from survival mode to self-understanding, and from self-blame to self-trust.

What Sessions Look Like

Sessions are a space for honest exploration, without pressure or performance. We look at your patterns with curiosity, gently unpacking the beliefs, assumptions, and emotional triggers that shape how you relate to yourself and others.

Together, we explore:

• self-doubt and inner criticism

• why boundaries feel unsafe

• people-pleasing and conflict avoidance

• attachment wounds

• emotional responsibility

• the pull toward toxic or unbalanced relationships

• the fear of being “too much” or “not enough”

Some sessions may feel soft and reflective; others may be more challenging as deeper layers begin to surface. Both are part of the therapeutic process. We move at a pace that respects your nervous system and capacity. You lead the direction of the work, and I offer guidance, reflection, and support to help you understand yourself more deeply.

Over time, the therapeutic space becomes a place where you can be fully yourself — grounded, honest, and gently changing in ways that feel authentic and sustainable.

Who I Work With

I work with adults who feel stuck in patterns that quietly undermine their confidence, clarity, and sense of self. Many of my clients struggle with low self-worth, chronic self-doubt, people-pleasing, poor boundaries, codependency, self-abandonment, and negative self-talk. Others feel weighed down by self-blame, emotional responsibility, decision paralysis, overthinking, or painful, confusing, or toxic relationship patterns that repeat no matter how hard they try to change them.

You might find yourself saying yes when you want to say no, feeling guilty when you set boundaries, or losing yourself in relationships because it feels safer than taking up space. You may appear capable on the outside but feel overwhelmed, anxious, or exhausted inside.

I support clients across the UK, Spain, and Europe who want to understand these patterns with compassion, build a stronger sense of self-worth, and create relationships — with themselves and others — that feel more grounded, honest, and balanced.

My Therapeutic Approach

My approach is relational, trauma-informed, integrative, and person-centred. This means we work together at your pace, with a focus on emotional safety, understanding, and genuine connection. I’m not here to judge, fix, or force anything. Instead, I help you understand the origins of your patterns, not as flaws, but as survival strategies that once made sense.

Sessions gently explore:

• the beliefs and assumptions that shape your self-worth

• people-pleasing and codependent dynamics

• the nervous system responses behind anxiety and overwhelm

• patterns of self-abandonment and emotional responsibility

• why boundaries feel uncomfortable or risky

• how you relate to your needs, feelings, and inner voice

• how toxic or unbalanced relationship patterns formed and how they can change

I offer both steady support and thoughtful challenge, helping you step out of old roles and into a more grounded, confident, and authentic relationship with yourself. Over time, this work strengthens self-trust, deepens emotional clarity, and creates space for new ways of being that feel aligned with who you truly are.